Wednesday, July 15, 2009


I have a bunch of post that deal with friends. Everyone needs friends, and they are a huge part of your life.

I complain to Kevin all the time about how we don't have friends any more. I'm starting to realize, just because we don't have plans every night of the week, doesn't mean we don't have any friends.

I hung out with a very dear friend of mine last night, and after we finished walking Struble, we grabbed some Rita's and sat and talked some more. One of the things we talked about was friendship, and how people have changed over the years and how different it is from college. That's when I had an epiphany! Like seriously, everything just clicked in my head and I had a huge 'ah ha!' moment.

Different stages of life are just that, different. Things are going to change. In high school there were sporting events and different activities always going on, and if all else fails, there was the mall. It was easy to be social. College doesn't even need an explanation it can be summed up in one word, dorm. You have 30 people living within 30 yards of you! Guarantee someone is around to do something with! Walk out in the quad, and there would be at least 2 or 3 pick up games of frisbee, or football, or soccer going on that you could join in (at least until they built the mega dorms, but don't get me started). I got involved with Cru, and they were always having parties, or going to Philly, or seeing a show. It's easy to meet a new person every night of the week if you wanted to. It was so easy to make friends, and to grow those friendships because time and location weren't an issue. Heck, I lived with 2 of my besties (Tripleship!) and the 3rd was in my major so I saw her just as much. It was easy to have dinner night once a week, and late night talks and giggle fest. Now it takes effort. You can't whisper to the girl sleeping in the bunk above you, you have to pick up the phone and call, leave a message, wait for a call back... You can't decide to take a walk at midnight and have them come along, you have to make plans a month in advance. Life changes means changes with everything, including friendships, it takes effort, it isn't easy, but true friendships will win out.

I don't know if that makes any sense to anyone else (if anyone is even reading this), but it really clicked with me. There isn't anything wrong with me, life has changed and I just have to make more of an effort, as do they.


Lyryn said...

Great post! Jesse and I sometimes find ourselves saying we don’t have friends too. But I’m always reminded of the ones that really do care about us and love us. It stinks that sometimes our journey takes us away from the ones we care so much about, but I think God has a way of bringing all back together.

Thanks for making me thing about how blessed I really am today!

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